Got a big suprise friday.

[oldsoldier]

 Back in 1988 when I was with my first wife, ( hadn't married yet and had been together only a few months) We were just barely getting by, $750. a month doesn't go far. Then found out she was pregnant. Due to our financial situation we decided to place the child ( a little girl) up for adoption. A wonderful family in Indianapolis Indiana adopted her. After meeting them the day we signed the papers I knew she would have a great life, and recieve all the things I knew we couldn't provide, Never regretted the decision. Although often wondered how she was doing and where she was. Well  thursday afternoon I recieved a letter from an Indianapolis attorney asking me to contact them. As it was to late to call them then so I called friday morning. After a few minutes conversation where they asked me some questions I found out that I am the one they were looking for. They then told me that the child we had put up for adoption was trying to locate me and wanted to know what the posibility was of contact. She's now 22 years old.  WOW I was floored. Went through about every emotion someone can feel. So after discussing the situation with my wife now. ( first one the childs mother and I seperated and divorced less than a year later due to her drug and other issues. I lost contact with her after she moved back to Ohio, and found out recently she had died.
 So anyway after the adoption I thought I would never see her ( the child) again.  Myself being adopted I know the feeling a adopted child has and the questions.  Also  a year or so later I was "injured" while in the military and as a result I was/ am unable to father any children. So I figured I'd never have any young one's. Had accepted the fact and got on with my life.

 Well looks like that's all going to maybe change. Now I'm waiting for information and paperwork from the lawyer to sign allowing them to release my information to the girl.  I know I'll never get to be her "daddy" but maybe we will get a chance to at least know each other. 

 Just wanted to share the good news. I'll keep you all updated.    

[Atash Hagmahani]

Yes, that's a big surprise. Hang on tight to the emotional roller-coaster and just enjoy the ride. 

[hippiechick]

My daughter is adopted and just this summer we made arrangements and she got to meet her biological mom. It was a wonderful experience for her. I hope your experience goes well also. We were all very nervous but things went really smooth for us. My daughter and her mom have decided to be friends and text and email often.
Since daughter is older it will allow even better opportunities to stay in contact. Good wishes to you!!!

[hancocs]

Best of luck to you and it would be wonderful if you can reunite and establish and great friendship. You only have one Father, really. You never know a Father/daughter relationship could be in your near future, never count that out. My prayers are with you OldSoldier

[offdalip]

That's awesome OS! 

[The Future]

great story.  good luck Pop!

[Beeherder]

Happy reunion OS, go ahead bee amazed.

[opsec]

Let us know how it goes when you meet her.

[Mike]

I don't know what to say! 

Thanks for sharing your good fortune with us.

I am always amazed at mothers giving up their baby, for the good of their baby, then wondering and praying for him/her the rest of their lives.

[oldsoldier]

I don't know what to say! 

Thanks for sharing your good fortune with us.

I am always amazed at mothers giving up their baby, for the good of their baby, then wondering and praying for him/her the rest of their lives.

 Thanks... Her birth Mom IMO didn't care one way or the other she originaly wanted an abortion but I said no and said we'd just put the child up for adoption. After that it proved to be the right idea. She ( my Ex) got into some nasty drugs through some so called friends she worked with and heavy boozing. I finally had enough and we divorced. Last I heard she had died. I have never regretted the decision to place the baby for adoption because the family who got her were/ are very well off financially and she had/ has all the good things I could never provided. Although I have thought about the child many times and wonder how she turned out. Well looks Like the good lord is going to give me a chance to find out,

[oldsoldier]

Let us know how it goes when you meet her.

 Will definately keep you all updated.

[Mike]

Her birth Mom IMO didn't care one way or the other she originaly wanted an abortion but I said no and said we'd just put the child up for adoption.

I've got a feeling that adopted kids want to believe what I DO believe: That their mother loved them and sacrificed the ultimate sacrifice for the baby they gave up for adoption.

*****

Then there is the  birth-mother who through actions and words shows complete indifference.

What is true?  It is possible that she is truly indifferent.

[oldsoldier]

   Talked to the lady at the lawyers office today she sent the papers I need to sign allowing release of information having it notorized tommorow and sending it back, Did find out she is 22 and here name is Laura. Told the lady at lawyers office that she is, " eagerly awaiting the chance to meet her birth father" As for me I'm so excited to get to meet yer I'm on a cloud. But at the same time i'm scared to death.

[hancocs]

Your feeling are normal. I'm sure she is feeling the same way but I bet tears of joy are in your near future more then anything else. It nice to know good things still happen in this world and your story my give hope to so many others. Cheers Oldsoldier.

[Atash Hagmahani]

Her birth Mom IMO didn't care one way or the other she originaly wanted an abortion but I said no and said we'd just put the child up for adoption.

Then there is the  birth-mother who through actions and words shows complete indifference.

What is true?  It is possible that she is truly indifferent.

She was "all too human". Give her credit for not going through with the abortion. Find goodness and personal value in others without making excuses for or lying about their flaws. It's the only way to get through life without turning into Young Goodman Brown.

I suggest coming up with some healing words beforehand in case questions about possibly hurtful topics come up. Then you'll be ready for your meeting, and won't need to feel scared to death. Your emotional state may make a huge impression on her, so I suggest making it totally positive. If you need suggestions, ask me offline as your own emotional state is probably and understandably a bit fragile right now.